You don’t fall in love out of necessity – because if you do, you’re not really in love. You’re just becoming unhealthily attached to someone. And that is always a recipe for emotional disaster. Think of having a partner in life as a very welcome bonus; but not really an absolute necessity.
You should always strive to attain the best in life – whether in your career or relationships. So you should never be settling for anyone who doesn’t deserve to be with you. You have to stop trying to convince yourself that you are only worthy of average men who are ready to give you an average love in an average relationship that makes you feel like an average person.
Love is many things but there is one thing that it definitely isn’t – average. So if you feel like you’re stuck in an average love, then it’s not love at all. And you’re just lying to yourself at that point.
So be patient. Don’t be so desperate to jump into the sack with the next guy you see just because you couldn’t wait for the love that was really meant for you. If you’re feeling a little impatient or desperate, then just keep in mind that you are actually cheating yourself if you want to rush the process. At the end of the day, the goal isn’t to be in a relationship just to make yourself whole.
You are already whole as you are. You are the only one who can give yourself a sense of completion; the sense of fulfilment that you’ve been seeking for. And if you look for that completion in other people, you’re just never going to find it. No single person in this world is going to complete you. No relationship in this world is going to be the sole reason for your fulfilment as a human being.
You are more than enough to bring those things into your own life – regardless if you’re in a relationship or not. You fall in love with someone who complements you. You don’t fall in love with someone who completes you. You are already as complete as can be. And that’s all a result of the love that you give yourself. So start with that. Fall in love with yourself. And watch as other people will line up to do the same.