I’M NOT WILLING TO GIVE PART-TIMERS THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT ANYMORE.
There have been times in the past that I’ve held onto half-assed friends or partners, adamant that they were going to start changing their ways and actually start acting like they gave a crap. Spoiler alert: it never happened and I won’t do it anymore. I’ve lost my patience over the years. I no longer have any tolerance for BS.
ATTITUDE COUNTS FOR A LOT.
If someone isn’t that great at being fully present and engaged but they’re actively trying to improve, that’s a totally different situation. I appreciate people who make an effort and I understand that there aren’t enough hours in the day sometimes. We all end up being part-timers at some point because things happen that we don’t expect and can’t predict.
However, it’s how we handle these types of situations that says everything. For example, if a close family member has to move away with their job and suddenly isn’t around all that much, they can’t control that. If they’re still checking in and apologetic about not being around much, that’s totally forgivable.
I GIVE 100% MOST OF THE TIME, THEREFORE I DESERVE 100% BACK.
I’m a strong believer in the idea you get out of life what you put in. If I’m giving my relationships my heart and soul, I want the same courtesy extended to me. I get that we both might not be able to give 100% all the time because other things get in the way, but things should be more or less equal most of the time.
I’M NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER.
I might have had the time and energy to sustain part-time relationships in the past, but I’m over that now. In fact, I’m not getting any younger. If I’ve given someone 50 million chances to be a better friend/partner and it’s still not happening, then it’s time for me to say goodbye.
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