Just to get this out of the way, you should never blame yourself for being the victim in a toxic and abusive relationship. It isn’t your fault. You shouldn’t be ashamed that you got tricked into being in a toxic relationship with someone. You shouldn’t hate yourself for being a victim of abuse and manipulation at the hands of a sadistic human being.
But with that said, you still have to do your part in protecting yourself and keeping yourself guarded. You still have to make sure that you are taking precaution in your approach to dating. Yes, you have to be vulnerable if you really want to find true love with a person.
But you can’t just always be opening yourself up to the manipulation of others. You still have to make sure to protect your heart the best way that you can. There are evil people everywhere who are looking to prey on the weak; and you can’t allow yourself to be weak if you don’t want to end up getting hurt again.
So what can you do to protect yourself from abusive and manipulative individuals? Well, you can make sure to avoid doing these 10 things:
1. You don’t listen whenever your friends tell you that you’re being played.
You should never let your friends dictate how you live your life. It’s important to get that point out of the way. However, you should never just automatically dismiss whatever they have to say either. They are your friends and they genuinely care about you. They love you and they want what is best for you. If they are expressing genuine concern for your relationship, perhaps you should listen.
2. You don’t learn from the mistakes of your past relationships.
It’s good to move on from failed relationships of the past. But it isn’t good to just forget about all of the lessons that you may have picked up from those relationships.
3. You let your desperation lead you into making bad decisions about love.
Never let desperation be what drives you in your love life. Sometimes, you should just be content with being single. In fact, you have to learn to embrace it. Don’t be so desperate to find love for yourself that you end up settling for terrible guys who are only going to treat you poorly. It’s better to be single than to be in a toxic relationship.