She doesn’t want to have to feel like there’s a substantial wall between the both of you. She doesn’t want to have to feel like you are making her work too much for your approval and love. She doesn’t want to have to suppress her feelings out of fear of scaring you away. She doesn’t want to have her insecurities and vulnerabilities creep up on her. She doesn’t have to want to walk on eggshells around you. She doesn’t want to have to feel like she’s going to drive you away with how much she loves you.
She wants to know that you’re going to be there for her regardless of how difficult she’s making it for you. She doesn’t want to have doubts about the relationship just because she knows that you’re having your own personal doubts as well. She doesn’t want to have to feel like she can’t give her all to your relationship because she knows that you’re not giving your all either.
She’s not going to find your flaky behavior all too charming. She isn’t going to find your hesitant nature cute or appealing. She isn’t going to think of your inconsistent communication as alluring at all. She isn’t going to respond all too nicely to that. She isn’t going to want to entertain that kind of behavior from any man she’s with. She isn’t going to want to have to put up with that kind of behavior in her relationships.
The only thing she is going to want from you is pure effort. She is going to be able to tolerate whatever differences you might have. She will be able to tolerate your imperfections. She is going to be able to look past your flaws. But she is never going to turn a blind eye to your consistency. She knows that effort is the one thing in life that we can all control. And if you can’t give her your effort consistently, she isn’t going to want to have you around.