Make your relationship strong and durable.
When you first meet someone, it feels easy to love them. Everything is new and wonderful, you’re happy, and it all feels bubbly and effervescent. But everyone knows that are often guided by hormones that make you a little loopy to begin with anyway!
So when you’re moving past the “new romance” stage into a long-term relationship, things can get a little bumpy. In fact, many couples end up failing within the first two years of a so this goes to show you that moving into the long-term can be a difficult time for relationships! You’ll need all the help you can get to make yours as lasting as possible. But trying to get what you need from your relationship and trying to meet your partner or spouse’s needs can be intimidating and feel exhausting.
How can you accomplish it?
Love needs to be nurtured and cared for. It needs to be treated delicately sometimes and never neglected. You and your partner are going to have to work together to make this relationship the best that it can be, for as long as you can if you want it to last. And while this can seem intimidating, there’s no need to worry.
We asked several experts what advice they’d give for building a lasting relationship, and these are their answers!
Here are 4 ways you can build lasting love and make your relationship last:
1. Always be accepting of one another.
“Create an environment of honesty and radical acceptance. Both of you — and your unique love for each other — will grow and flourish in an atmosphere where curiosity about differences, rather than a competitive mindset, is practiced.
Building deep trust builds real partnership. Offer permission to make missteps without critical judgment so that important corrections can be made, and your individual and combined potentials are realized. Decide to use your values to set the limits in your relationship rather than unexamined critical voices of your childhood, and you will have designed a safe haven where your full self can be shared fearlessly, with faith that love will hold you,” advises mediator and divorce coach, Ann Cerney.
Next time you feel the urge to give your spouse an angry “I told you so,” reconsider. You need to know that you can both love and trust each other, and rubbing mistakes in someone’s face is bound to hurt them, not help them. Instead, allow them to talk to you without judging them, and then help them find a way to correct the situation. When you’re both building each other up and helping one another, no one is going to fail!
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2. Learn how to press “pause” on your temper.
“When your partner pushes your buttons, accuses you of something or says something incendiary, take a deep breath, stay centered, don’t react and above all, don’t bicker. Going into defense mode and arguing is a losing strategy. Give your partner empathy, tell him or her that you really hear what they are saying and thank them for sharing. says matchmaker Marla Martenson.
Let go of little things, and try not to sweat the small stuff.
It’s easy to fall into a ridiculous argument and forget that you are supposed to be working with and loving the person you’re fussing at in the heat of the moment! And always ask yourself, “Is this worth it?” before you start an argument over something inconsequen is a matchmaker, author, Reiki practitioner and radio show host. She helps people connect with their soulmate through self-love and healing. To discover how to truly love yourself and the real secret to finding love, join Marla’s private Facebook group, and grab your here.